#life #love #Thursday #happy #feminism #Black #lady
Hey boo! (at Smokey Bones Bar & Fire Grill - Virginia Beach, VA)
Heeeercut! #beautiful #lady
God is so good!!!!!! Won’t he do it???? *raises hand*
#dominos #cheeseybread #food #fatty
I can’t stop smiling! The sun is shining, the birds are chirping and I am almost done with my book! *sigh* It’s amazing how life can improve when you work hard to be happy and stay positive! Out with the old, in with the amazingly awesome!
I’ve been wrestling with something for the past couple of weeks, and the events in Ferguson have really brought my emotions to a head. Let me say this: this is not about race, religion, class, sexuality, or beliefs. This is about manners. This is about respect. This is about freedom. This is about being a human being.
I have many friends that have different belief systems than I do. Most of you know that I am a very “unconventional” person, and my beliefs are based on social science, facts, experience as well as emotions. I am comfortable with this. In fact, I embrace it. I believe that the reason that I have become so intelligent is because I am a student of the world. I read the bible, but I have also started The Book of Mormon and extensively read the Koran. I WANT to learn. Additionally, I do my best to not offend people by name-calling, assumptions and stereotypes. If I have a question, I ask. And, usually, if someone says something offensive to me about my beliefs, I stay quiet. I let everything ride and I “let people wallow in stupidity”. At least…that’s what I told myself…
Lately, I have been seeing very offensive posts on my Facebook and Twitter timeline. Not only that, I have been the victim of disrespect from people that I loosely called “friend” or “associate”. From the phrase, “All Arabs hate Americans” to “Impeach Obama, he’s ruining America”, to “Women don’t deserve rights and should shut up about feminism” to “All Black people act ghetto and White people are afraid of them”, to “Gay people don’t deserve rights”, etc. Stu…pi…di…ty!!!!! Like I stated, I am always the girl who let’s other people vent and talk about their beliefs even when they insult me, offend me, and hurt me. I do this, because I now some people are not raised like I was, to respect others and have manners. Some people are blind to the world around them and are influenced by the media rather than a book, a study, research or experiences The fact of the matter is, I have been wrong. I have been wrong for standing aside while people insult me in my face and indirectly on social media. I have been silent long enough.
Please…keep your beliefs. Please…stand your ground! But PLEEEEEEASE, do not be rude or insulting when you are around others. If you were really my friend, you would respect me and my beliefs. I welcome education about other cultures and beliefs, but I will no longer tolerate people insulting me. Stop. Just….shut up! Just, STOP!!!!! Learn how to step outside of your box and learn from others. Stop allowing ignorance to make you a nasty person! If you do disagree with me, fine. But please be considerate of what you say around me and others. It’s called manners. Get some.
I need a break from everything and a lot of people. Please do not be offended if I don’t answer your calls or messages. It’s time for me to change my surroundings and the people in my life. It’s time for me to stop being silent. It’s time for the world to love one another instead of hurting one another. Stop stereotyping, stop denying people rights, stop bashing others, stop being a student of a bias system and be a student and advocate of truth. And please, don’t disrespect me anymore. I am not a puppet, I’m not your “token Black friend” or “token feminist”. I am a person who deserves respect.
Cure for a long night…and one of those days.
Hey baby, I’m a rock star! #nightlife #DMV #beautiful #lady
My office this morning…
A little honey, a little of something else :-)