Caught a body bout a week agoooooo! *Shmurda dance* #bestfriends #hittas
Facing the world after a day inside! Dinner time! Happy Saturday, babies! (at Texas Roadhouse - Virginia Beach, VA)
The birthday balloons that my brother and sister brought me! I was so excited! Thanks loves!!! #intunemusic #mifamilia
Last night was mad real….
I went to the nail salon today to get a fill in and met another feminist. Totally random. She was 64 years old, African American, had traveled the world, had a low haircut (her hair was bleach blonde, by the way), and wore bright red lipstick. I briefly spoke to her about my philosophies on feminism and women today, and mentioned that I had been receiving a lot of negativity because of my age and the fact that I don’t have children. I told her that on my birthday, I sobbed like a baby because I felt that I had let everyone down by choosing to focus on myself rather than have a child that I wasn’t ready to care for, simply for the sake of others desires and expectations for my life. I told her about the fact that despite all of my attributes, achievements, independence and success, I had still been reduced to a uterus, a reproductive system, and a failure in the eyes of my Sweet Home Alabama folk.
After spilling my guts to this woman, she looked at me in terror. She couldn’t believe that I had been deemed “selfish” for not having children. She told me that I was perfect. She told me that I should be proud of myself and that the change that I bring to my community IS my baby. She told em that I have a world full of children who need my love and guidance, and that I would only be a failure if I did not fulfill my duty as a Mother to Plant Earth.
"My dear, life is about having fun, making love, seeing and experiencing new things, making a difference, learning and nurturing others. I love my son. But he does not define me. Do not let others live through you. Love your life and never regret your choices. If you want children, have them. You are only 27, after all".
I smiled at her and said thank you.
"Write about it. Write it all down".
Write, I shall! #feminism #ImOK #happy #women
This is the most beautiful letter I’ve ever received. I’m so blessed to have such a caring, loving friend. Gina, you are amazing and you have made my birthday so very special! I love you!