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I am writing you as a fan, but also, as a critic. I am sure you are thinking, “Another one!? Someone else who doesn’t like what my million dollar empire stands for and exhibits”. But, I am writing to you (mostly) as a fan. A concerned fan. A fan who has faithfully watched every single episode of Love and Hip Hop on Monday nights. I have laughed, cried, yelled, and been confused (usually all within 5 minutes of the show) at the young men and women that you have on your show. But today, I want to talk to you about the recent season of Love and Hip Hop which takes place in Los Angeles.
Although the last season of LHH Atlanta was full of drama and jaw-dropping moments, I was very shocked at the level of violence that occurred during the reunion. I often found myself tearing up during the fight scene on episode two of the reunion. I was worried about Ms. Joseline Hernandez as well as her co-stars. No one should be subjected to that. That being said, at the start of the Los Angeles season, I found myself excited and ready for a change of scenery for the show. New York had become a season of constant yelling and headaches and Atlanta (which I love) has annoyed me due to Mimi’s weakness for pigs and Joseline’s frequent use of the word “bitch” along with her alleged substance abuse. So, Hollywood was welcomed with open arms. However, when I saw the women that were featured on this show, and began to dig deep into why they were chosen for the show, I became worried. I became disgusted. I became ashamed. I became fearful.
Mona, not only am I writing to you as a fan, but I am writing to you as a WOMAN who suffers from Type II Bipolar Disorder. This disorder has caused me to battle depression and anxiety, mania, mood swings, hyperactivity, suicide ideation, aggressive and violent behaviors and engage in unstable relationships. Yes, I am what most American’s like to call, “crazy”. But, that is why this letter is so important. I am not writing to you to criticize you nor your “hustle”. I am writing to you to encourage and BEG you to stop instigating and promoting the exploitation of mentally ill and unstable individuals through a culture that I truly love: hip hop.
I will admit, I have been caught up in the LHH hype! I got hooked on the drama and the “mess” that occurs on each and every episode. But more and more, I became conscious of how this show contributes to violence, anger, stereotypes, and the decline of hip hop culture and music. Let’s start with Moniece Slaughter (Lil Fizz’s (B2K) ex and baby’s mother), a woman who is a sex toy entrepreneur and complete and utter psychopath. She threatened her baby’s father and will proceed to threaten his girlfriend later on in the season. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for a little drama and entertainment, but this woman is OBVIOUSLY disturbed! This is not a “for the camera” act. Her child was taken away due to her behavior and it is almost glorified on the show! What happens if she seriously injures someone or herself during filming? Fame will only magnify her mental instability. Are you liable if something tragic happens to her or someone in her path of rage? Teairra Mari is another darling of the show. The obviously angry ex of singer and sex-tape extraordinaire, Ray-J, has shown (on the very first episode of the season) that she is mentally ill. Between the fake crying, the violence, the stalking, and the excessively aggressive language, anyone can see that she needs to be evaluated and treated. I cringed as she showed up to Ray-J’s party and my excitement for the show quickly turned into disgusted for her as a woman and even as an artist. Of course, these two women are not alone in the LHH crazy camp. Erica Mena and Joseline are not far behind, and Mimi…well…she’s not the brightest crayon in the box, is she? The deep psychological issues that these women possess are not funny, entertaining, or empowering. They are sad, scary, and pathetic. The fact that VH1 uses them as a ploy to make money and exploit others is deeply disturbing.
Let me tell you a bit about my experience with Bipolar Disorder. Mona, have you ever had the feeling that you are out of control, but you can’t stop yourself? Have you ever felt yourself leave your body, then watch yourself do something stupid, reckless, or harmful but couldn’t help it? Have you ever felt as though you were in a dark place with no light switch? Have you ever felt like crying or yelling or fighting for no apparent reason? Well…I have. And I imagine that’s what the ladies on your show feel as evident by their actions and confessionals.
Of course, you are not completely to blame, because these women do have a mind of their own and so do the men that they are intimate with. However, I do feel as though you have become powerful enough to tone down the violence and dramatic elements. I believe that instead of putting women on your show who have a history of violence or dislay signs of mental illness or drug abuse, you should add more people like Tammy and Waka to the show. I’ll even take Scrappy and Momma Dee! Entertaining and gripping story lines minus the violence and mental disturbances. Hip Hop is a culture that is slowly declining and I believe that it is because of the stigmas and stereotypes that are being circulated amongst people outside of the culture. These stereotypes are created through shows like Love and Hip Hop.
Mona, I admire you as a woman, but I want you to admire your fans and the Hip Hop community by reducing the violence and exploitation of mentally ill women. We love you, but your show has gotten offensive and embarrassing. I hope this letter finds it’s way to you and you can take this matter into consideration.
Fan, supporter, realist
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